If you’re not into reading, try learning a language, go to meetups, join a running club. If one thing falls through, don’t worry, do something else with your precious time (just don’t waste it). But when you stop looking for it outside of yourself, you will find that you can truly rely on yourself — and that will help you to love others. Always have a list of things you can do with your time. In fact, in the past, my answer was yes to all the above questions.
Emerson’s essay helped push me to pursue my boldest creative goal. But that wasn’t as clear when I started writing it, or when I blogged the story as a serial after countless publishers rejected it.
In 2014, I wanted to write a book of literary science fiction, called but shorter, futuristic, and based on my work on Google’s legal document review team. I wrote the book—despite my many doubts, and those of others—because I was heeding Emerson’s warning that I’d be scooped if I held off.
“They come back to us with a certain alienated majesty.” In every book or painting or film that moves us, we respond because they speak to a truth we recognize—if only subconsciously. Yet he understood the importance of holding convictions about your personal potential.“To believe your own thought, to believe that what is true for you in your private heart is true for all … “Speak your latent conviction, and it shall be the universal sense; for the inmost in due time becomes the outmost.”Still, it can be hard to feel sure of ourselves—particularly as our personal failures accumulate. I bookmarked the digital version of the essay on my computers at work and at home. As I did, I became ever more certain that however ridiculous and daunting my goal might seem, the first step to accomplishing it was believing that it was worthwhile.
But remember, at the time he wrote his essay, he wasn’t yet considered a master of American literature. And yet we must be brave enough to follow through on our ideas. Emboldened by Emerson, I dared to “abide by [my] spontaneous impression with good-humored inflexibility.”The themes of the novella—the blurring line between fact and fiction, how to process fake information on a web without context, and whether technology should be driving decisions—are now the stuff of daily headlines.
Most people hide from difficulty and internal turmoil. To truly appreciate something, you have to realize that you will lose it one day. Life is a series of unrelated events and decisions. We say things like, “everything happens for a reason.”But understand: Life just happens. It’s easy as changing your existing thoughts when they are not useful to you.
Whatever you do, get comfortable in your own skin, it’s the only one you will ever have. And that brings us back to Emerson again, he said: And that’s life.
Remember this: Your problems will always travel with you. Every setback is an opportunity to test your self-reliance. Without it, you will never become a complete and reliable person. Always keep this in the back of your mind: I owe nothing, and nothing is owed to me.
You don’t need to travel to the other side of the world to find yourself. When something bad happens to my health, relationships, or finances, I’m thankful. If you believe that you will live forever or that you will be loved until the end of time—you get lazy. But once you separate yourself from everything in life, you become a passenger who tries to make the most out of every single minute. You will never be able to explain everything with 100% certainty and proof. ” You are where you are in life because of a few random things, plus the decisions you made personally. If you’re unhappy or if you want to change, just change your standards.
Instead of grabbing your phone and texting/calling a friend, go for a walk.
When you do that, you’re not only self-reliant but also appreciative of life. Most of us can’t stand the thought of spending a day or longer alone.